Saturday 12 September 2009

Give me some space

I've been married for over six years now and incidentally, in love with my now-hubby for 15-plus years. Our relationship has seen plenty of ups and downs; and when you are married, it's easier to keep track of the downs. Sometimes, I feel like taking a breather and running away from the yokes of family, child and anything resembling responsibility. At others, I just want to curl into the secure confines of Abhi's arms.
I hear a lot of my friends clamouring for more space in their relationships and how-to articles in women's mags telling you how to strike the right balance between intimacy and giving each other space in a relationship. Well, yesterday I just happened to get some space.
It's about 11 at night; Abhi is blissfully asleep, even snoring a bit. I don't want to put down my book but I force myself to as I have a heavy day ahead of me. I turn off the lights and turn around. Abhi is facing away from me, lying on his side. I spoon into him and I want to hug him. I put my hand near his elbow, trying to burrow my fingers under his arm so that my arm can go all the way under his. And suddenly, Abhi just lifts up his arm to give me the space I need. The space for me to put my arm underneath his and hold on tight. I peer at him in the semi-darkness of the city night; the lights from the nearby road gives me some light. He is still fast asleep!
It felt so good within; I wanted to wake him up with a big kiss but I just held on. I know how much Abhi loves his sleep. I was just glad that my husband gave me some space of the best kind. I think every marriage needs more of this kind of space.

Saturday 12 September 2009

Give me some space

I've been married for over six years now and incidentally, in love with my now-hubby for 15-plus years. Our relationship has seen plenty of ups and downs; and when you are married, it's easier to keep track of the downs. Sometimes, I feel like taking a breather and running away from the yokes of family, child and anything resembling responsibility. At others, I just want to curl into the secure confines of Abhi's arms.
I hear a lot of my friends clamouring for more space in their relationships and how-to articles in women's mags telling you how to strike the right balance between intimacy and giving each other space in a relationship. Well, yesterday I just happened to get some space.
It's about 11 at night; Abhi is blissfully asleep, even snoring a bit. I don't want to put down my book but I force myself to as I have a heavy day ahead of me. I turn off the lights and turn around. Abhi is facing away from me, lying on his side. I spoon into him and I want to hug him. I put my hand near his elbow, trying to burrow my fingers under his arm so that my arm can go all the way under his. And suddenly, Abhi just lifts up his arm to give me the space I need. The space for me to put my arm underneath his and hold on tight. I peer at him in the semi-darkness of the city night; the lights from the nearby road gives me some light. He is still fast asleep!
It felt so good within; I wanted to wake him up with a big kiss but I just held on. I know how much Abhi loves his sleep. I was just glad that my husband gave me some space of the best kind. I think every marriage needs more of this kind of space.