|Pic courtesy: Ambili|
Having known Abhi for close to 18 years (eeks!) now and having been in love with him for 17 of them (*smug smile, interspersed with a little awe at the number*), I'd probably be qualified to say I know Abhi like the back of my hand. But you know how people are, constantly evolving even though we so love to resist change!
Over the years, I have seen Abhi go from an angry-at-the-push-of-a-button (any button) adolescent to a man who can control his anger (in a very nuclear-weapon fashion, as in beware when it's switched on and directed at you). Jokes apart, he's a rock, and a good one at that... 'cos if he were the rock that absolutely refused to budge, impulsive me would have had serious problems. But he's the kind of rock that rolls (I couldn't resist that guys, sorry!) when necessary and that makes him a wonderful, best-friend-and-support kind of rock.
And while I don't see eye-to-eye with him on hundreds of things, it's surprising how we -- of the big egos -- often set egos aside to let the other win. Arguments, after the initial passionate-anger-filled phase, are often not allowed to fester in the 'I trumped you' stage. And that's one thing I like about our marriage.
And why am I analysing our marriage today? Cos we are close to a very special anniversary, the first birthday of DropCap Media, which started out as a thought in our living room in what seems now like ages ago. From that day on, Abhi has been a rock not just for me but for my firm as well, pitching in with money, equipment, advice and err... financial disciplining (which falls in one of those aforementioned don't-see-eye-to-eye categories).
Not once, even during the first few days of struggle when our direction seemed lost in a fog of indecision, did he express any doubt in DropCap's ability to survive and succeed. Of course, we have had our fair share of arguments on management style, capital expenses and other blah-matters associated with running a firm, but when it comes to the big picture, Abhi has always been sure of DropCap doing well. He always treats it -- our success -- as an inevitability, and so doesn't get all excited like I do when we clinch a major deal!!
When I wrote a post on the official blog about our BIG day, I could have mentioned Abhi in a line, I suppose, but I didn't. For two reasons: one, a line just wouldn't do; and two, he's too much a part of my heart for me to pour it all out into what, I feel, is a professional space.
So this is a gratitude post just for him though he's unlikely to read this unless I send him a link. Lemme just go do that right away! :)